"I don't think anyone can grow unless he is loved exactly as he is now, appreciated for what he is rather than what he will be."
-Mr. Rogers
I have often fallen for the potential that I see in a man. Those glimpses of something great; those intimate moments where you hear someone's desires; those moments where you are completely infatuated and hopeful. But you can't fall in love with hope or potential, you shouldn't fall in love with who someone is in private or 25% of the time... you have to love them for who they are on a daily basis. Maybe they will grow into their potential with time, but maybe they won't. And if you can't love them for who they are, but are hooked on their potential, you will be destined to a life of compromising; comprises at your own expense. And at some point you will look back on how many you have made, who you have become, and my guess is that you will be shocked. Inevitably, rather than them turning into their potential, you will have turned into your worst.
If you can't love someone for who they are, walk away. Love yourself more. And if you can love them for who they are, then help them grow in love.
-Mr. Rogers
I have often fallen for the potential that I see in a man. Those glimpses of something great; those intimate moments where you hear someone's desires; those moments where you are completely infatuated and hopeful. But you can't fall in love with hope or potential, you shouldn't fall in love with who someone is in private or 25% of the time... you have to love them for who they are on a daily basis. Maybe they will grow into their potential with time, but maybe they won't. And if you can't love them for who they are, but are hooked on their potential, you will be destined to a life of compromising; comprises at your own expense. And at some point you will look back on how many you have made, who you have become, and my guess is that you will be shocked. Inevitably, rather than them turning into their potential, you will have turned into your worst.
If you can't love someone for who they are, walk away. Love yourself more. And if you can love them for who they are, then help them grow in love.
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