Commitment phobe? Puh-lease.
I find it somewhat entertaining when people who have no insight into their own lives and actions try to give me insight into mine. I would not ever look to you for advice because I never want to mirror my life or actions around yours. You are stuck in that half high school/half college phase where you are not taking responsibility for yourself or have any level of self awareness.
I have taken the time to create who I am and decide what I want. I am comfortable being alone. I am comfortable with myself. And I know who and what I am. You don't know or understand me any better than you do yourself.
You want to tell my I am a commitment phobe? Just because I don't feel the need to define my life by having a man, doesn't make me a commitment phobe. It makes me a wise woman who is comfortable in her own skin and is looking for a healthy genuine relationship rather than someone to fill the time. Yes, I date around. Yes, I have my fun. But when someone great comes along I will make the time to build a relationship with that person. And if it is right, then I will commit.
Dating is important. It helps you weed out the people and characteristics you dislike without having the heartbreak that comes with a failed relationship. You aren't overly invested so if it ends, or if the personalities don't match, or if your partner has qualities you dislike, then you can walk away without the pain or drama.
Why would you commit to someone you don't know? Why would I be someone's girlfriend I just met? I actually take the time to get to know someone. I take the time to find out if we are compatible.
The one time I didn't do that and I just started dating someone right off the bat, it turned into a disaster that lasted for far too long. I learned my lesson.
Why don't you learn yours?
My life is filled with passion and responsibilities that I am proud of. That is how I define myself. By the things I do, the way I treat people, and what I accomplish. A man is not an accomplishment. It is an addition. So when I find the right addition to my life, I will add him. Until then, I will have my fun and focus on myself and my priorities. I will continue to be honest with the men/boys I meet. And I will continue to like myself just the way I am.
Maybe if you liked yourself more you wouldn't be so obsessed with having a man in your life.
I have taken the time to create who I am and decide what I want. I am comfortable being alone. I am comfortable with myself. And I know who and what I am. You don't know or understand me any better than you do yourself.
You want to tell my I am a commitment phobe? Just because I don't feel the need to define my life by having a man, doesn't make me a commitment phobe. It makes me a wise woman who is comfortable in her own skin and is looking for a healthy genuine relationship rather than someone to fill the time. Yes, I date around. Yes, I have my fun. But when someone great comes along I will make the time to build a relationship with that person. And if it is right, then I will commit.
Dating is important. It helps you weed out the people and characteristics you dislike without having the heartbreak that comes with a failed relationship. You aren't overly invested so if it ends, or if the personalities don't match, or if your partner has qualities you dislike, then you can walk away without the pain or drama.
Why would you commit to someone you don't know? Why would I be someone's girlfriend I just met? I actually take the time to get to know someone. I take the time to find out if we are compatible.
The one time I didn't do that and I just started dating someone right off the bat, it turned into a disaster that lasted for far too long. I learned my lesson.
Why don't you learn yours?
My life is filled with passion and responsibilities that I am proud of. That is how I define myself. By the things I do, the way I treat people, and what I accomplish. A man is not an accomplishment. It is an addition. So when I find the right addition to my life, I will add him. Until then, I will have my fun and focus on myself and my priorities. I will continue to be honest with the men/boys I meet. And I will continue to like myself just the way I am.
Maybe if you liked yourself more you wouldn't be so obsessed with having a man in your life.
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